D/s Files and Resources
About the Protocols
First, I owe a debt to several published sources and to Dr. Robert J. Rubel's Protocols: Handbook for the female slave, as well as the APEX/Butchmann protocols. I have quoted these in places, but the quotes should be clearly delineated and do not make up the bulk of the content.
One of my concerns has been that there is not a serious set of protocols for submissives. The thrust for D/s is 24/7 slaves. I don't do 24/7 work at this time, and I honestly feel it's kind of poor if a girl who wants to hold down a normal job, have a normal social life, and sub one night a week can't have the same experience as someone who has dedicated to being a "lifestyle" submissive/slave. I wanted to create a set of Protocols that I felt were flexible enough to handle "normal" wear and tear, not just my day to day life at the (non existant) Dude Ranch where I keep my vast "stable" of submissives. I live in a suburban context (albeit very far in the suburbs) and all the girls I am currently working with have lives, jobs and social interests and priorities, including other partners.
I'm making these Protocols available to folks who want to see them, since I've already had about five requests. That said I want to give a few big provisos.
Protocols can be elegant, beautiful, and a huge boost to a D/s relationship. Rubel suggests that protocols “turn routine actions into ‘defined, repeatable, events.’” He adds notes on Protocols as a guide to declaring mutual intent, and focuses on the concept that Protocols make a relationship special, by communicating “to the other person – and anyone watching – just how valued this relationship is.”
1) These are not designed to be "point and click" protocols for the Dominant. You would need to read them, likely save and adapt them, then go over them with a new girl.
2) For Gods' sake, do not dump these on some hapless girl without comment and tell her it was my idea. If you do that, to quote Daniel Plainview from There Will be Blood "One night I'm gonna come to you, inside of your house, wherever you're sleeping, and I'm gonna cut your throat." Just sayin'
3) In all seriousness. Read through these, and talk through them with the girl. These will be a flatulent pain in the ass if you don't walk the girl through them, preferably with your own careful alterations.
I am working on a "getting started" guide, but that's not a major area of concern for me, so you kind of need to read this stuff, understand, and then use.
I am not answerable for failings or lack. If you have something you think should be in these protocols, then by all means download a copy and add it under the Creative Commons License
- Position Chart for Female Submissives
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